Energetically, 2017 is a 1 year. It’s all about new beginnings and will set the tone for the next 9 years. This is an exciting time. The work you are doing with ‘Be’ to Do couldn’t come at a better time.
So you made a choice. (Part 3) You know the one thing you’re going to change in your life….awesome! Now, life is going to conspire against you as you work to make that change a reality. Oh sure, it will go well for a while and then life will step in – and you’ll lose momentum. I know what you’re thinking….wow, is she ever a downer!
Not at all. I’ve made a life out of pursuing change myself. (My numerological birth number is 5 which is the energy of change…. I came to the planet to do this.) My working life has been about helping others enact change. I know how this goes. The Universe has a ‘checks and balances’ system in place. Whenever you want to enact change – It asks ‘Are you sure you want this?’
One of the first things I ask a new coaching client after setting a goal is “How would you like me to respond when you don’t follow through?” It’s going to happen. If you have a system in place to respond when you lose momentum, you will be more successful at this change thing.
You want to eat better and lose 10 pounds by summer. It’s been 2 weeks and you’re doing really well. Then….birthday celebration at work. Someone brings in a cake and your co-workers goad you in to having a little piece. Before you know it, you’ve had a second piece and you’re licking the left over frosting off the cake plate.
You drag yourself home and beat yourself up. STOP….no biggie. Back-sliding happens to everyone. Luckily, you have a plan in place. You know what you’re going to do when you slip up. If you were one of my clients, we would have worked out a way for you to handle this.
You would learn to see this as a momentary lapse; knowing you have the opportunity to make a better choice in the next moment. Life is a series of moments. Just choose differently in the next moment. And don’t forget to pat yourself on the back for all those moments when you made a choice in alignment with your goal.
Change happens in increments. The best laid plans will go awry. I planned to do this 4 part series over a 4 week time frame. This is week 6. My father in law went into hospice 2 weeks ago and passed away a few days ago. I accepted that plans would have to be put on hold, but I would continue with my plans when the time was right. “C’est la vie” This is life.
So in a nutshell, here is how you take your choice and make it a reality.
- Sit down and plan for how you will enact the change in your life. (It could be to find a better job, work on relationships, lose weight, exercise, meditate, enjoy life more….)
- Plan for how you will handle setbacks.
- Celebrate your accomplishments.
- Give it time. Minor habits take 21 days to set. Major changes take longer.
- Be proud of yourself. Change is hard and you’re a rock star for setting an intention for how you want your life to be. Kudos for doing what it takes to make that life a reality.