Have you ever tried to get someone to see your point of view and they just can’t do it? Sometimes the stakes are really high, and still…they can’t budge. They are unable to change perspective. It may mean the end of a friendship or relationship. Sometimes it means the end of a marriage and the breakdown of a family unit unless some form of shared vision can be reached.
These are tough scenarios. There are no quick fixes or easy answers. What we ‘should’ do and what is best for us and the situation may not be the same thing. Anger, frustration, fear, sadness and confusion travel with us as we struggle to find an answer. Many of us are facing these situations right now. We don’t know what to do and we want answers. We just want to be happy now! Here are 3 sure-fire ways to help you see more clearly.
Accept that the only thing you can control is how YOU see the situation. It is pointless spending time and energy trying to get another to see from your perspective when they are unable or unwilling to do so.
Grab a notebook and begin listing what a life of happiness would look like for you. It will help you to see where you are now and how far it is from where you want to end up.
Do something/anything which brings you joy…today! This takes your mind off your troubles long enough so you begin to see the bigger picture. Clarity can lead to wisdom.
These are challenging times on our planet. We have all been tasked with changing what doesn’t work in our personal lives and in changing a world which gives to the few at the expense of the many. It’s a large order and will be accomplished when we change the only thing we can change…and that is ourselves. But first, we will have to find ourselves! I just finished watching the series “Once Upon a Time in Wonderland”. At the end, the rabbit says to Alice…
“Many have come to Wonderland Alice, but you are one of the few who have found success. You have found yourself.”
When you find yourself, you release fear and can’t be hurt or manipulated any more. You understand the only thing you can control is how you respond, and you learn to stand in your power.
You choose creation instead of reaction in each moment. This is the Holy Grail; it’s the only power capable of moving mountains. It is the power of love and is the driving force behind this evolution.